Ever since I opened my first Xanga account in 2004, I have been hooked on social networking. I love it. It definitely has its’ benefits….but there are also many downsides. We’ve all heard about them, no need to re-hash that here.
Recently, I have found myself attached to my Instagram/Twitter/Facebook/Pinterest accounts a little more than I am comfortable to admit. Instead of enjoying precious time with my daughter, I catch myself pulling out my iPhone so I can get a sweet shot to ‘gram. I immediately begin composing tweets in my head to describe my days’ events, rather than enjoying the moments I have. I’m constantly obsessing over what people think of my online presence and how I present myself across all of my networking platforms. And you know what? It’s exhausting enough to worry about my face-to-face interactions these days.
What also scares me, is that I’ve noticed I use social networking as a kind of ‘release’. Checking Instagram is my drug. Anytime I need to chillax, I load up my feed and throw out some likes and comments. When I wake up in the morning and feel anxiety flood the room while remembering the tasks that lie before me [you all know the feeling, when you’re drowning before breakfast], I grab my phone and go through my Insta/FB/Twitter/Pinterest loop a few times until I’m ready to face the day.
It is absolutely ridiculous.
So I have decided to quit cold turkey.
On Monday morning, July 1st], I will be deleting all of my social networking accounts [except for my blogs].
I have tried limiting the time I spend online many times before, and I’m usually successful for a while. But somehow or another, I always end up back in my internet-immersed state. During the times when I limit my online social interactions, I am infinitely happier….and that is where I would like to stay. Hence the decision to cut all social networking platforms [aside from blogging] out of my life.
So, if you’ve been sent here from another one of my social networking platforms, don’t despair! I will not be falling off the face of the Earth – I’ll merely just be accessible in different ways. I have a cellular telephone that I am quite proficient with – it can make and receive voice calls, video calls, text messages, AND Emails! I also have a mailbox right outside of my front door, and a very kind and quirky little mailman who fills it up for me every day 😉
I am hoping that since I will not be busy procuring the sometimes superficial connections we maintain with one another online, I will have the presence of mind to actually keep in touch with you personally. But I will probably forget your birthday because Facebook is not there to remind me of them…Please forgive me in advance for that.
I hope that if you would like to know how I am doing, you would feel as comfortable calling/texting/emailing me as you would stalking my Facebook Timeline or Twitter or Instagram. If you wouldn’t…well. Think about that for a minute. Anything I might have mentioned online is something I would be more than willing to share in person with any of my online friends.
If you need my contact information, hit me up yo! Leave a comment [using your email address in the handy little WordPress comment form], then I will be able to see your email [but it won’t be published for the public to see], and I can send you my digits and other such useful information. Oh and maybe you should tell me your birthday in that comment too…you know. In case you want congratulatory songs and such 😉
I am actually terribly excited for this change in my life. Sometimes I sort of feel like I’m a 63-year-old-lady in an almost-23-year-old’s body….so the idea of restoring my interpersonal relationships to [mostly] offline ones is kind of thrilling and kind of a relief. I don’t know that I can adequately explain it. But it’s a wonderful feeling.
PS – my birthday is coming up! July 18th! I’m telling you because I know you all wanted to know so badly and were about to stalk me on Facebook before I deleted it so you could fill in your little calendars and remember to wish me a happy day 😉 I freaking love birthdays.
PPS – I opted for brutal honesty about my issues here, rather than a vague explanation that mostly covers my bases. It may be kind of uncomfortable, but hey. That’s okay. Good conversations can make you cringe sometimes. I am human and I have my flaws just like everyone else.